The Other Side of the Sky.

This book is like a slap to the face. It will make all your problems shrink into a petty existence, it will also make you extremely angry, at the world and how it works sometimes, and at all the broken parts of it where unfortunately, people like Farah live. 
It’ll be the wake up call that you need, telling you to shut up and then making you feel plain silly for worrying about all the “problems” in your life. Those petty, petty things that you call problems. Wait until you hear this girl’s story, then we’ll see if you really have any so-called problems.

The title of the book that I’m going to continue raving about unil the end of this blogpost is called “The Other Side of the Sky” by Farah Ahmedi. It’s a true story, down to every detail. 


I want everyone to read this book ( I already made my sister read it xD), and therefore will not spoil anything, but I will give a quick summary about what the book is about.

Basically, Farah is born in Afghanistan and when she turns seven, something horrible happens to her from which a dozen horrible, or rather disturbingly horrific things follow shortly right after. I don’t want to give too much away, but as someone who immigrated to Germany and then to the United States, I can relate to many parts of her story. From the cultural misunderstandings to the cultural veils that begin to seperate us from our families as immigrants, to the big universe out there of messy politics and all the ways it affects us beyond our control. This story will have you crying for sure, if not in the first half of the book, then definitely the second half.

This book will also make you angry, very angry. Sure, Farah’s world is filled with fairy godmothers and angels, but it feels like she’s constantly in the midst of things that are just so unfair, and it makes you rage at the way her world wraps around her; with too much force and no choices. And I think more importantly than that, it makes you wonder how one or two evil people can cause so much chaos in the world and destroy the lives of those around them, whether a couple or thousands of miles away. The worst part is, that Farah’s world is the very one and the same as ours, with the monsters that haunt her a very much real threat to this day. 

If you’ve read this book I’d love to hear your thoughts about it, or if you happen to know anything else about the author since she’s virtually nonexistent on the internet it seems, then I’d love to hear that too!

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REACTING TO MY CRINGEY COLLEGE ESSAY ABOUT HIJAB!

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Omg this is such a cringey post I can’t believe I’m even going to post this on the internet!

The words you are about to witness are words I actually sumbitted to my ENGLISH TEACHER AND HE READ THIS ESSAY AND EVERY WORD CONTAINED IN IT. Continue reading

15 Important Muslim Women in History

An insightful look at women in Islam back in the day…

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This post, the first of several on the topic, intends to highlight the various contributions of Muslim women throughout medieval and early modern history. While many people may be familiar with the accomplishments of contemporary Muslim women (whether heads of state, scholars or activists), the fact that women also played a pivotal role in the pre-modern Muslim world as intellectuals, poets, mystics, rulers and warriors tends to be less appreciated. By sharing a handful of biographies of a few of these luminaries from Islamic history, it is my hope that this will help dispel certain problematic stereotypes (among both Muslims & non-Muslims) about the historical role of women in Islamic societies and spark further interest and inquiry into women’s history in the medieval and early modern Islamic world (as well as in pre-modern history more generally).  

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My Message to Brothers Searching for “Nice Hijab A$$” on Google

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First off, I couldn’t decide whether to title this post “The Embarrassing Muslim” or just plain “WTF are Muslim Guys Googling?”

Before I go on ranting, let me show you these pictures from my Blog Stats.

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Let me explain. What you just saw are phrases that people have found my blog through. They are things people have searched. These are not the only ones, they are just several, and keep in mind my blog is small.

Now, my problem with this, isn’t that there are some muslim guys, or girls spending their time on the internet searching for this stuff, it’s the fact that I know, in some twisted way, a brother out there has convinced himself that trading the word “hijab” for “girls” would somehow make it okay to look this up.

That it’s less haram somehow, and maybe even justified and halal in his mind to look at pictures of Hijabi girls and not girls. And let me just straight up say no to this. No, no, no. This is embarrassing for our muslim community. If you want to do something wrong, go do it wrong, but don’t try to twist the religion into it. That’s unacceptable.

Furthermore, in Islam the deal was for women to be modest and chaste and for men to lower their gaze and cover from the navel to the knees. Why is it that lowering “the gaze” part is often under scrutinized, while the hijab is put under the microscope and overly judged? Additionally, and this is a bit off-topic, why is it that when at a beach or a resort, muslim guys rush to strip to their shorts as to not be a covered obscenity in a beach, but the wife or sister wouldn’t budge to take off her hijab, because she knows a deal is a deal and Allah’s word is Allah’s word.

How can such a guy expect the woman next to him to look different in her chastity while he couldn’t even bear to keep his t-shirt on his chest not because it’s hot outside- but because he looks too different covered like that. And then he dares to judge her if a hair is out of her hijab, or if her sleeves are too short- all without realizing that he shouldn’t have been looking so intently at her like that in the first place! Revive your part of the chastity deal men!

And let me take a moment to say that not all guys are like this, and many of our muslim men are nothing but supportive and respectful and truly chaste on their part, but we could use more men like them in our community and it doesn’t hurt to point out some things that need fixing, especially when it’s a cultural issue rather than a theological one.

Bottom line, fellas if you want some hijab ass I’ll be your Google and answer the question for you; you won’t find any. Briefly put, hijab is a chaste woman, and not everything wrapped in a scarf qualifies as one. Better luck dropping that first word out of your search words next time; you’ll get the real results you’re looking for.


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Would I buy the NIKE sports Hijab?

TO NIKE OR NOT TO NIKE?

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From the midst of all this political bickering, the last thing I expected to come from it was a Sports Hijab. But I’m not complaining- about time somebody noticed us!

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Above you can see what to expect when Nike launches the Nike Hijab next spring, except I’m not exactly sure what they’re going to be calling it yet-personally I like the sound of Nike Hijab, sounds like something official.

Being someone who’s only been active in sports for fun, either playing with other kids in the neighborhood or taking part in my high school’s track and field for like a few weeks, and tennis for a few weeks and this and that for a few weeks, I haven’t struggled too much with finding a functional hijab to wear since I never competed professionally.

However, that’s not to say I haven’t had my fair share of searching and wishing for something that I could wear without having to feel like it takes away from my “sportiness” or at least how sporty I look. What people don’t understand is that often times with hijab, it’s the way people perceive you in it that creates the problem rather than the actual act of wearing the scarf itself.

When you wear a scarf, and you’re in a team or amongst a group that is all dressed in different but more “mainstream” apparel, you feel like a fish out of water, and it’s not because wearing the hijab makes you feel different, but rather because you’ve never actually seen someone else wear the hijab and play sports, so you feel like it can’t be done and that the two simply don’t go together.

But with the Nike swoosh now on the side of the hijab, it feels like it fits perfectly, regardless of how it looks. That checkmark, simple as it is, symbolizes a validation for a hijabi when she puts on that scarf and in the midst of her looking so alien, the swoosh is there as proof that it’s normal and acceptable.

Now with all that being said, would I buy a Nike sports hijab when it comes out? Hell to the yes. Not only will it be exciting to try a new Nike product, but I want to actually see if it’s any different from normal hijabs that I own. Furthermore, last time I went jogging I had a little hijab/hood malfunction so I’d like to see if the Nike hijab really will make things easier.

What are your thoughts on the Nike sports hijab announcement? Yay or nay? Silly or the next new trend?

THE BASIC MUSLIM TAG | 15 Questions for Muslim Youtubers to do!

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The internet could seriously use a blogpost like this since I couldn’t find a proper tag for muslims to do. If you’re a muslim youtuber or even blogger, this would be a fun set of questions to answer to have your followers get to know more about you while being entertained, enjoy and feel free to add or change anything!

Also, please don’t start any religious debates from these questions, they’re supposed to be a cool way to learn more about each other, not a heated political/religious debate, ok? Ok, so here they are: Continue reading

Top 6 Reasons Muslim Girls Need to Visit Oman!

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One of the main reasons I haven’t been active on Muslimgurl.com is because 4 months ago I came to live in Oman. 

A quick recap of Oman; it’s a predominantly muslim country, one of the most peaceful and safest places in the world, and most importantly, a muslim country where even religious sects pray side by side in harmony. I’m talking like Shia and Sunni’s praying side by side without being at each others throats, like if that’s not an achievement, I don’t know what is.

And it sounds nice doesn’t it? Well, it gets even better 🙂

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Picture I stole from the blog Andy in Oman. It’s a photo of the food court in Muscat City Centre I believe.

1. EVERYTHIG IS HALAL

This one might be obvious, as a muslim country it’s readily assumed that everything there will be halal. However, in Oman it’s even better because they include all the major diners and restaurants you might’ve had back home, except now you can eat whatever you want in them at any location. Nandos, Subway, Pizza Hut, Burger King, McDonald’s, Chilies, Tim Horton’s… they’re all here and they’re all halal! No need to search online for halal
restaurants before I leave the house anymore :p

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Sunset at Yeti when we visited during Eid!

2. BEACH, GYM, POOL…BEACH!!

You know those stares that you get when you’re at the beach fully dressed while everyone else isn’t? You don’t get that here. You can swim dressed in anything you like at the beach. And there’s plenty of women’s only gyms and pools that you can go to without having to feel like you’re doing something horrifically wrong simply because of the way you’re dressed. And actually, you can wear whatever you want, put on an abaya, then take off the abaya in the locker room and voila. Zero awkwardness. Zero uncomfortableness. 

 

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A picture of Oman Avenues Mall from the outside that I stole from the internet!

3. SHOPPING 

The target consumer is you! Toothpaste ads emphasize things like “minimal breath” during ramadan and those delicious food commercials apply to you as well! Furthermore like with restaurants, all the major brands you’d want like Zara, Mango, H&M, Victoria’s Secret and a hundred others are all here. How sweet is that. 

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See that hat the guy is wearing? That’s a distinctly Omani hat to wear for men. Also, image credit goes to the British Council.

4. DIVERSITY

Many Middle Eastern countries now a days, lack diversity due to the safety issues prevalent in the area, however, in Oman, you will find a large population of Indian, Philippino, British, Bangladeshi, basically many ethnicities so you don’t feel ethnically bound to only one group, one culture and one way of thinking. 

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Sultan Qaboos Mosque (the 3rd largest mosque in the world) here in Muscat, Oman. Picture taken a few days ago, if you come early in the morning, you can head to the office and volunteer to help out for the day!

5. FITTING IN 

When I first stepped foot in Oman, there was a strange feeling of relief: not because we’d landed safely, but because I no longer had to prove that I’m a normal human being who doesn’t carry out terroristic acts for my religion to every single person I passed by.

I know it might sound a bit extreme, but the brutal reality is that unfortunately, some people really do believe that I, as a hijabi woman, would try to hurt them as part of my “religious beliefs.”

And the worst part is, there is no way to distinguish between someone who dislikes me for my personality and those who dislike me for my religion. The relationship is so gray that I’m constantly torn between, should I try harder to make a good impression to represent my reigion better, or do I change something about myself because it’s setting people off. Is it me they hate, or is it what I represent?


It’s a very confusing battleground, and the worst part is I can’t imagine the middle schoolers and high schoolers having to deal with this in addition to their life overload at this stage in their lives.

And that’s where the relief comes now that I’m in Oman: nothing is gray. The majority are muslim and the expats are here willingly, furthermore there is no sectarianism here. Meaning unlike other muslim countries, they don’t care about the political sunni-shia issues, the mosques here are beautiully packed with worshippers praying with their hands at their sides or across their chest, each to their own.

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6. ENGLISH, ENGLISH, ENGLISH!

Though it is an arabic country, the majority of transactions and interactions are done in English. Signs, prints, ads, everything is in big, bold beautiful English! To me this is a major plus since even day to day interactions such as at the cashier and restaurants are carried out in English, making my life so much easier since I no longer have to explain why yes, I’m arab, and yes I can speak arabic, but no, I have no idea how to communicate with you when I’m trying to order food or trying to open a bank account. 


And though Oman is a quiet and traditional country, it is organized and well-maintained, obviously there are downsides, but overall, it’s a not too shabby place to be in, and I will most definitely miss it when I leave next week. If you have the chance, give this charming quiet little country a visit.