Sit down, put the phone aside (or actually hold that thought until you’ve reached the end of this post) and just breathe.
I want you to truly reflect and feel grateful for what you have and where you are in life.
People. Think about the people in your life that really light up your day, or who bothered to check in on you today, or who you have plans with today. Or it could even be someone you may no longer be in contact with, but share a great memory with. If you allow old memories to make you feel bitter and angry and embarrassed; why not let some of your memories make you feel good, and loved and cherished? Revel in that memory. Be thankful for the people that have been a part of your life. I mean it, be grateful for everyone you have shared a laugh with or been able to be yourself with. It’s a gift, and there’s nothing wrong with focusing on what you have instead of what you don’t have.
Sustenance. If you are reading this I already know you have both the time and money to have access to the internet which automatically tells me your financial life can’t be that bad. Am I saying you’re not struggling? No, I don’t know that. But you’re probably not hungry either, and you’re probably not sleeping on a bench somewhere outside in -3 Celsius weather for the 78th night in a row. I can assume that much.
With that being said, we have the tendency to take for granted the things that are consistent in our lives. Such things, are food on the table and a roof above our heads. Security and stability, a bed to sleep on, a closet filled with clothes, and shoes and countless accessories and things that we actually don’t even really need. Yet, ironically in this mess of stuff that we have, we also find ourselves wanting more and feeling like we have so little and there’s so much more that we want, that we can’t get.
I understand this. You want this and you want that, and what you have isn’t that great (or whatever) but you need to be thankful for these things. Imagine if you didn’t have them. Imagine if your closet was empty and you only had the clothes you are wearing right now. What would that feel like? Think about that. Imagine if your fridge was empty except for one of your shelves/drawers. How would that make you feel? Don’t just say you’re grateful for these things, reflect on it, understand it, feel it. Feel how lucky and rich and what a state of abundance you are living in.
I could go on and on about all the different things you could be grateful for beyond just people and sustenance matters. Your physical health, your mental health, your career, your family, your education, your journey. Your current existence. I mean hello, people die from car crashes and airplane crashes, and all sorts of other random weird stuff all the time. The fact that none of this has affected you alone is something to be grateful for.
So for the rest of today, I’d really like you to ask yourself this question every time you interact with someone or something. Ask yourself, what if I didn’t have XYZ?
What if I didn’t have this car to drive to work? What if I didn’t have a job to be stressed about and go to? What if I didn’t have any of my friends? What if, what if, what if. Ask yourself.